Just an FYI on what Minor P stands for: Minority Parent. See, I’m an adoptive father who is a minority, but my child is Caucasian (considered the majority). My wife and I have been through adoption classes and we learned that we are considered a “conspicuous family,” meaning that it’s obvious that our child is adopted because we are a mixed race family. You will often see conspicuous families like Caucasian parents who have adopted a child who is a minority; but it’s not so common the other way around.
I wanted to talk about my experiences as a Minority Parent (a Minor P), but also just share my story a little and how we got to this point. Ultimately, I’d like to just serve as a resource to other people who find themselves in a similar situation and to help provide information about what it’s like to be a Minor P with a Major C.
Additionally, it appears that it’s mostly adoptive moms who share their stories, whereas I’m an adoptive dad. I’d also like to share this perspective to be a sounding board for dudes who may be trying to process the whole adoption/infertility journey.
Note that I am NOT trying to monopolize my child or our story. I don’t intend on posting pictures or using names. I have found that where I live, my family really stands out: I frequently observe double- and triple-take glances when we are out in public. Fortunately, most strangers we interact with are very supportive of our family, so it’s been a wonderful journey. So, I just ask that if anyone happens upon this blog, please don’t try and figure out who I am or whether my family is the one talked about here and please try and respect our privacy.